… when [Arena’s] sister was very ill in [name of hospital], we went there… And she was trying to think, and it was that [song] "Missing in action.” You know that's a real old, old one, “Missing in action.” Anyway, this male nurse comes over, very brazen, comes over and he goes, ‘Oh, I need you now.’ And I say, ‘Kāti, tātari (no, wait).’ I said, ‘Wait.’ And I said, ‘in actual fact, haere mai (come here) and sit and listen to her sing.’ And he stood there, honest he stood there. And we said to [Sister] ‘How does that go?’ And she goes, how does it start again? "The warship has landed," and anyway, she sang it, but you know her voice was really frail, but she sang it.
But you know we were all tangitangi (crying) and anyway I said to this fella, ‘now you understand when things are of importance - wait. Because if she's going to say something to us, we need to remember, and this is also a learning experience for you, to wait. We’re not talking just about now, but in the future, when you need our kaumātua, kuia to come, wait until they're ready don't just come in and say, ‘oh I need you’.’ And he was full of apologies.